Bounce Back After Divorce

People often feel lost after divorce, wanting to move on and have new relationships, but not knowing how to meet people. The ways you met people before getting married have changed. You are no longer in college. You are no longer in the singles scene. You are busy raising the children from your marriage. You go to work and come home to take care of things grown-ups have to do. When are you going to meet people? And if you don't meet people, how are you going to find a new relationship?

Janis Spindel, of Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking Inc has several ideas on how to kick-start your new life after divorce, and it does not involve hanging out in bars. She says to make new friends of your own gender, and go places with them. You will go to new places and meet new people in a more comfortable setting than going out by yourself to meet people.

Also, Janis suggests just opening up and talking to people. Talk to people in line with you at the DMV, people doing jury duty with you, people sitting next to you on airplanes. This is low risk, because if you find you can't stand the person, you are unlikely to have to ever see them again.

She suggests that women go to sporting events if they want to meet a specific type of guy, or "pretend shop" in the men's section at department stores. She throws out the idea of asking for directions to a restaurant or bar when out walking on the street.

These ideas might not be the right fit for everyone, but if you find one that appeals to you, why not give it a whirl? You deserve to be happy.

To read Janis Spindel's article, go to http://www.huffingtonpost.com/janis-spindel/life-after-divorce-how-to_b_1721766.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce.

Help Your Child Get Through Your Divorce

You are going through divorce, or have gone through divorce. Your child now has two households. Which one is home? Does either one feel like home? Will he or she ever have a sense of home again? If you are still fighting with or complaining about your former spouse, you are subjecting your child to living in an ongoing "emotional divorce." Parents often get so caught up in their hurt feelings and anger that they do not look three feet away to see the child sitting next to them. They do not think about how their behavior impacts the child. Until you get over your divorce and provide a safe, stable, nurturing home, your child will continue to suffer. I promise you, they want the divorce to be over. Let it go, so it will finally be over. Be the role model of how you want your child to resolve conflict when she is an adult. Be an example of how people can behave in difficult circumstances. Show your son how to rise above stress and hurt feelings. Get yourself happy, so they can be happy - now and in their adult relationships. Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tara-fass/victims-of-success-by-tar_b_1009423.html?ref=divorce

Divorced Moms Tell All About Dating

A new study followed 300 divorced moms with elementary-school-age children. They wanted to find out, over a two year time period, what the mothers' priorities were on new relationships and their children. These priorities changed somewhat from immediately after the divorce to a couple years down the road. At one point, 91% of women said they and their children were a package deal. To see how you fit in with the women in the study, read this article.

School Issues and Child Custody

School can be tough enough on its own. Being a kid of divorced or divorcing parents can also be tough. Combine the two, and you have a lot to put on a child's shoulders. Do your custody and visitation arrangements make things better or worse for your children? Are you now stressing out about your kids? Want to learn how to make it better? Read this article for great suggestions on how to make life and school much more pleasant for you and your children.

You Are Never Really Divorced If You Have Children

Ok, you may be technically and legally divorced, but if you are "co-parenting" children with your ex, you are still having to make your way through the minefield of coordinating kid schedules with parent schedules. You still have to agonize over whether you are making the right decisions that can impact your child's future. You still have to discuss "all things child related" with your ex and try to reach a good result by agreement (unless your ex has fallen off the face of the earth or is an uninvolved louse). So, when it comes down to it, about the only difference between you and married parents raising kids is that they might still be covered under their [ex]spouse's health insurance. For a great discussion of this subject, read more here.

Do You Want Step-Parenting to Suck Less?

Many of us have been there - step-parent to resentful children. Often, you will be treated as the reason their parents divorced, even if the child knows it is not true. This can happen when the child knows you did not meet their parents until years after they divorced, or that the other parent is the one who saw other people during the marriage. Is there any hope? Or will you both walk on eggshells around each other and hope the child will go to college far away? These step-relationship problems often are a factor in the second marriage ending in divorce - or not happening at all. Why would you walk to walk down the aisle with someone whose child hates you? On the other hand, why should the child welcome you with open arms? She didn't have a voice when her parents divorced. No one has asked her how she feels about you becoming a part of her life. Since more than half of second marriages end in divorce anyway, her best bet is to be a total pain and hope you two will either not get married, or will get divorced. Clearly, no one is happy in this situation. This article gives practical insight and advice on how to understand each other better and actually create a good, respectful, caring step-parenting relationship.

What If You and Your Ex Have to Live Together After Divorce?

In today's economy, sometimes it can be many months or even a year or two before the house sells. Many people can barely afford one household, and they certainly can't afford two households - until the house sells. So, if you get stuck living with your ex for months or longer after the divorce, how do you keep from killing each other? Seriously, how do you live together without everyone being miserable - especially the kids? This great article helps you set ground rules in this situation. I'll bet you know someone who could use this information.

Want help getting rid of stuff after your divorce?

Wouldn't you love some unbiased, unemotional advice on what to keep and what to throw out the window at high speed after your divorce? And no, I am not referring to your ex. Get great information to help you clear out the junk and get rolling on a fresh start.

Why Do Men Move On Faster Than Women After Divorce?

It's not just your perception - divorced men really do remarry faster than divorced women. Do you wonder why that is? Is it because more women have custody of the children, so they are effectively taken out of the "dating pool" if they are busy raising the children, handling their day job, managing homework and running the kids around to their activities? Is it because men tend to get over things and bounce back quicker? Is it because women are busy working through the things that were problems so they don't make the same mistakes again? Is it because men don't want to cook and clean for themselves? Or is it something else? Read a great discussion of this topic.