Don't Shut Your Child Out After Divorce

Going through divorce can be a traumatic, stressful experience.  It is human nature to build some walls to protect yourself so you don't get hurt again.  When you do, be careful your walls don't put your child at a distance.  Your child needs you now more than ever.
 

Is It Divorce Time Or Just January Blues?

January and September usually see a huge upspike in the number of people calling lawyers to get divorced.  Why is that?  People don't like to file for divorce during the holidays or during the summer.  They want to have that one last holiday season or summer together, for themselves or for the kids.
Divorce lawyers usually refer to January and September as "high season," because of the large numbers of new cases.  This is a cautionary tale - make sure, if you are thinking of hiring a lawyer and getting your divorce started, that you really want a divorce and are not just suffering the "January blues."

Divorce and the Holidays

Is this your first holiday season after divorce?  Are you going through a divorce right now?  Does life look bleak and your future uncertain?  Focus on your health and well-being.  Resist the temptation to stay out late and drink too much alcohol, but don't be a hermit.  You need to get out some and socialize to feel a part of a community.  Take care of yourself.  Treat your self to a massage or a manicure, or if funds are tight, call a friend and give each other manis and pedis while listening to holiday music.  You will get through this, and you will be happy again.

Why Can't We All Just Get Along? & Divorce

To borrow the words of Rodney King, "Why can't we all just get along?"  Just because two people are getting a divorce, does not mean they have to be vicious and hateful to each other.  This is especially true if there are children involved.  Parents who create a toxic environment of fighting are selfishly ignoring the harm they inflict upon their children by doing so.

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes Settle Their Divorce Quickly - So Can You

All eyes have been on Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes for the last week, ever since it was reported that Katie had filed for divorce. Wild rumors swirled about Scientology and whether that was the reason behind the divorce. Other rumors focused on their daughter, Suri, and whether Katie was trying to protect the child from exposure to Scientology. Still other rumors have reported that under the prenuptial agreement, Katie will get $3 million for every year they were together, as well as their Montecito home, while others have countered that Katie will walk away with little more than she had before they married.

Those whose eyes were gleaming at the prospect of a knock-down, drag-out tabloid battle are whimpering in their corners now. Those who had sharpened their knives in preparation for the anticipated feast of scandal will have to be voyeurs in some other family's tragedy. Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes appear to have pulled off one of the greatest successes of their lives - a civilized, quick divorce. Congratulations, Tom and Katie. May many people across the planet learn from your example.

For more information, read http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/09/tom-cruise-katie-holmes-divorce-settlement_n_1659293.html.