This edition of Holiday Custody concerns thinking about how your actions make your child feel. By this point in time, you should have the custody schedule for the holidays hammered out in detail. The purpose of this article is to raise awareness of how your children feel when you show up late or blow off time with them during the holidays.
When you show up late to pick up your child for a scheduled visit or custody period, it tells your child that whatever you were doing was more important to you than your child is. Doing this during the holidays makes them feel even worse. When someone you love shows up late or cancels on you at the last minute during the holidays, it hurts you even more than it would at other times of the year.
Sometimes parents have a fight or argument during the holidays, and one parent says something like "Fine, then I just won't see the kids on Christmas. You keep them." Perhaps one parent feels he or she is punishing the other parent, but they are really punishing the child. Think about it. Would you beat up your child in order to punish the other parent? What kind of monster would do that? So don't beat up your child's feelings.
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